end relationship

  It is very advisable to maintain some distance to your partner before you actually break up. This has many advantages. On one side you will gain some emotional distance, which is important to be able to go through the steps listed below.On the other side, your partner will sense that something is about to happen and will hopefully emotionally prepare himself.Just cut off contact for a week before. Do not give too much information, just say you’re busy.I know, that’s a tough one, especially when you love the person in question, or are very close to him/her.Chances are that you were thinking about breaking up for a long time. You have come to the conclusion that you don’t fit together, have different expectations about life or were unable to resolve or get to the bottom of your conflicts. Maybe you have simply realized that you do not love your partner.
Either way, try to be sure that there is no chance of getting things right again. I wrote “try”, because I know that these things are not always easy to realize. You can be relatively positive on your decision, if you have tried for several times to work on your relationship by talking about your problems with your partner.To help you with making the decision I suggest that you make a list with all the reasons why you want to break up and write a possible solution beside it. Then go through your list and reflect if you have done everything to solve the problems you’ve had.By knowing the reasons for the upcoming break up you will on one hand be prepared for questions your partner might ask, on the other hand they will help you to cope with the break up yourself.So, are y Always talk to your partner in person. Never use email, text messages or a letter.
I know this is tempting because it’s much easier for you, but it would also be another type of betrayal. You owe your partner that you look him in the eye when you break up with him. It’s a question of loyalty and moral—an unwritten law.Not to speak that it’s easier for the person left behind to face the break up when you tell him/her personally.Never walk away from this painful burden. Be fair.ou absolutely sure? This is anything but easy. You have to be well prepared—you have to know what to say in advance.You must reckon that your partner is shocked. Even if the break up announced itself for a long time, it will come out of the blue for him/her. The “no contact” before can soften this.There can be various reactions. Depending on the personality of your partner, there can be denial, crying, begging, aggressiveness, even abuse. Try to stay calm whatever happens. Never let this end in a fight.Here is a short guideline how to behave when delivering the message: